Just so you know, I’m not trying to be cutesy with the title. I don’t want to dilute the message of this blog entry by trying to be clever.
It may sound weird but there are lies about lying… really.
When I look at the issue of lying and habitual liars in particular, I tend to see people falling into three groups.
Side Note: My writing about lying seems very strange to me. I don’t know much about lying. Frankly, lying is not one of my personal issues. Believe me when I say I have plenty of flat spots in my life… but lying isn’t one of them
As I was saying, I see habitual liars falling into three groups.
Group One: Proud Liar
As mentioned in my previous blog entry, there are people who are really good liars… and proud of it. They clearly know they are liars and are proud of having mastered the art of deception and enjoy working their craft.
After a successful display of deception they stand puffed in conquest over the carcass of the gullible.
- John Ruskin
Group Two: Diluted Liar
There are those who know they stretch the truth or may leave out relevant facts to reach their end goal. But they have no idea that they are in reality, habitual liars. They have lived in the shadowy world of lies for so long that their lives have lost distinction of color between truth and lies… there only exists shades of grey.
The most common lie is that which one lies to himself; lying to others is relatively an exception.
- Friedrich Nietzsche
This type of liar, lies to himself. They conveniently apply the same false logic to themselves as they do to their prey.
They alter the reality of who they are to accommodate the lie they want to believe about themselves. They lie to themselves, and believe the lie that they are not liars. They justify their craft by believing that they are not as bad as other people, or that the situation demands the stretching of truth.
I do myself a greater injury in lying than I do him of whom I tell a lie.
- Michel de Montaigne
Group Three: Trapped Liar
These are the people who have given in to their dark side and have done things that no one knows. They live a lie and are entombed by their hidden choices.
They live in fear that someone will find out the things they have done and their world will collapse. As much as they put on a good face to the world, fear is slowly suffocating the life out of them. They feel the slide of the slippery slope into the darkness.
To the person reading this who is in this last group… I say very directly and loudly…don’t believe the lie that there is no way out.
Yes, there may be consequences for decisions you have made. But the ability to breathe the fresh air of freedom is worth it.
This blog entry is not meant to be dramatic. I write what I think I am to write. Who knows, God may use my simple words to do a profound work in someone’s life… maybe yours.
See you later.