October, 2012

Oct 12

Win at all costs!


It’s amazing to me how a phrase such as “Win at all cost” can on the surface seem so simplistic and singular in meaning.

These seemingly simple phrases are thoughtlessly tossed on the pile of mindless axioms and only used when we want to drive home a point.

The tricky part of all of this is the fact that the words we hear or the phrases we quote are limited by the definitions we are taught and the philosophy of the environment in which we live.

But let’s do something bold and retrieve the phrase “Win at all costs” from our mental pile of mindless axioms.  Let’s step back and broaden our default definitions and hopefully we will walk away better people.

Win – who doesn’t want to win?  I like to win… I tend to be pretty competitive when playing a game.  If I am on a team, I want it to be the winning team.

No one should make it a life goal to be a loser.

But let’s define “win”.  Typically “win” is defined by a score that measures the particular activity in which we are engaged.  Usually it’s the highest number that wins but there are some games such as golf where the lowest number wins.

Regardless of the type of activity, it’s based on the numbers, something tangibly measurable.



But there are other kinds of “wins” that are not tied to toys or numbers.

I contend that to “win” could be anything that brings you more of what you want.

The last sentence then begs the big question… what do we want in life?  Is it toys, money, to be on top or something else?

There are some big wins that have nothing to do with numbers.

Take a look at this video.  It’s pretty cool.

It’s a story of a competitive team that can teach us a broader definition of what it means to “WIN”.


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Regardless of the score, the team was a winner.

See you Thursday.

Oct 12

The Extraordinary Ordinary


Hi again.

The other day I was talking to a person that thought they were made to do something special.  They are here for more than to just live.

I don’t think that is out of the ordinary.  Most people believe they are here for a purpose.

The problem is, most of the people who feel this way spend their life looking for something extraordinary to do or accomplish.

They are searching for the “Big Splash” moment where they realize their existence.

I fully believe that we all are made to be exceptional.  But few will have a big splash opportunity.

Our opportunity to be extraordinary… is in the ordinary.

This is not a cute play on words.  I am very, very serious.  Too many have believed the lie that one’s impact on the world comes in headline form.  Not at all.

It’s ordinary people being faithful in the seemingly ordinary that makes an extraordinary impact on our world.

All around us are wonderful examples of the quiet unsung heroes that are changing their small part of the world… making it better than the way they found it.

These are quiet strong people who are giving, loving, serving, healing, teaching or nurturing without the fanfare of society.  Yet they are the foundation of our society.

A couple of years ago I shared a video about such a person.  Her name was Susan Izatt.

A few years ago a reporter by the name of Steve Hartman did a series on CBS news called Everyone Has A Story.  I loved it.  He would take a dart and throw it at a map, go to that town, pull a random name out of the phone book and interview them.

Susan refers to herself as boring and has nothing to offer.  Take a look at an extraordinary ordinary hero.

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Do something heroic… simply heroic.

See you Monday.

Oct 12

What’s in a name… more than you think!


Hi, my name is Jerry Rushing.

I’m sure that it was pretty easy for you to figure out my name without my needing to inform you.  Pretty obvious huh?

Just so you know, I did not plan to name my blog after myself.

Side Note: Stick with me as I talk about the name of my blog.  Believe it or not I will be making a pretty important point.


Three years ago when I was thinking about writing a blog I had a friend volunteer to set it up for me.

I jumped at the chance for him to create the blog structure because first, I didn’t know how to do it and second, he has a top business blog on the web.  What could go wrong… right?

I figured he would title the site with something that would be both discrete and compelling.

Little did I know he would title it with my name… talk about feeling exposed.  I was hoping to talk about life stuff and stay anonymous.  But in hindsight I believe it was a “God Thing”.

Side Note: True confession… I have never really liked the name Jerry.  Rushing is ok but the first name of Jerry never did anything for me.

It doesn’t feel like a strong name to me.  Maybe I should change my first name…. hummm….  How about “Steel” or some other strong romantic novel leading man name?

I don’t think so.  I’ll just stick with Jerry.


Now the interesting thing about my name is that if you Google my name you will find that the first Jerry Rushing who pops up is a quasi celebrity.  He was a former moonshine runner that the Dukes of Hazzard was based on.


The real “Jerry Rushing”

Wow… Jerry Rushing a moonshine runner.  Neither his celebrity status nor his moonshine reputation has ever effected me.  Who knows, maybe my reputation has effected him.

But what if you had a name like Charles Manson, Saddam Hussein, or Jerry Sandusky.  OUCH!

The catalyst for this blog entry is because of a story I heard about a fellow named Jerry Sandusky.  Only his first name starts with a “G” not a “J”.

Gerry Sandusky is a sports commentator for the Baltimore Ravens.  Because his name sounds like the infamous Jerry Sandusky of Penn State Football he has received all kinds of hate mail and threats.

The point of this blog is not to talk about the challenges a person has because they share the name of some horrible person.

The point of the blog is how Gerry Sandusky has handled the situation.

Gerry Sandusky was encouraged to change his name or use a middle name to avoid the backlash of the horrible things the other Jerry Sandusky did.

But he refused.  He wanted his name to stand on its own.  He was not about to let the evil of someone with the same name to corrupt his.  He felt he would be compromising who he was and who his father was if he changed his name for his own personal convenience.

Gerry Sandusky had the right perspective about the situation at Penn State.  He said that he’s not a victim.  There are others who are the true victims.


I’m not a victim, I’m inconvenienced.

- Gerry Sandusky


People of character are able to rise above the nastiness of their surroundings.  There is a sacred quality to good people.

Gerry Sandusky redeems the name that Jerry Sandusky destroyed.

Well-done Gerry.  You’re a great example for us all and especially for your children.

I’ll be back on Monday.


Oct 12

Distorting the distorted truth


Welcome back.

As you know we are in the throws of a very aggressive Presidential election.

Yes, I do plan on talking about politics.  But NO, I am not going to talk about a particular candidate or party.

I of course have a preference as to which candidate I think will be the best option for our great country but that is irrelevant to this blog.

This blog is about the fact that I am extremely frustrated with all politicians in general and both political parties.


Ninety percent of the politicians give the other ten percent a bad reputation.
- Henry A. Kissinger

I don’t know about you but politicians really irritate me.

It seems that all politicians ever do are take shots at each other and speak to us in scripted sound bites.  They don’t give us the big picture of their philosophy or values.

It doesn’t matter what side of the political aisle they because both sides are just as guilty.

They must think the American public are a bunch of idiots.


If career politicians had the solutions, we wouldn’t be in the mess that we are.
- Rick Scott


Just for the record, there is no question we have our fair share of really stupid people… all you have to do is look at any one of the several Jackass movies.

But for the most part we are a country made up of hard working people trying to make a life for themselves and their family.

It’s true that some people have more formal education than others, some make more money, we’re large and small, pretty and plain, and many different religions.

But the vast majority loves their country.  We may have different views on what the country needs, but love it nonetheless.

I believe everyone has some basic God given common sense.  There are things that we intuitively know to be good and bad or right and wrong.  I am not talking about a moral sense of right or wrong in this case but a right or wrong in regards to dealing with life situations.

The problem is we don’t get “real information” to make an assessment of the situation.  Everything we hear is spun, twisted, distorted and completely altered to benefit the political bent of the person providing the information.


I have come to the conclusion that politics are too serious a matter to be left to the politicians.
- Charles de Gaulle


We are forced to make important decisions based on truth that is projected through the lens of a kaleidoscope.



They make it look all pretty but truth is not to be found.

The sad reality is that this distorted truth poisons the well of our mind and then we mangle the truth even more because of our faulty lens.

This all sounds dreary and heavy, but not necessarily.

If we are willing to set aside our programmed notions then we have a better chance to sort through the clutter and find truth.

The most difficult thing as an individual is to realize that our lens is distorted and are willing to test the very beliefs we have.

This takes work and is extremely challenging but oh so rewarding.  Take a chance.

See you Thursday.


Oct 12

Digging out of a Funk


Hi all.  I’m vibrating at a pretty high speed today.  I know that you are thrilled for me.

If you have no idea what I mean by vibrating you will need to check out the last blog entry.  Just so you know, vibrating at a high speed is a good thing.

Also, please be assured that there will be no vibrator jokes today.  I am sure you can see a person can easily go in a lot of different directions (no pun intended) with that topic.

Now that I have escaped the Monday funk, life is all blue skies and happy dust.  I can’t help but smile and bob my head back and forth in happiness as I vibrate in my chair.

OK, enough with the happy dust and vibration.

In the last blog I passed along some helpful hints on how to get out of a funk that I found on the web.  Frankly, they were pretty pitiful.

Those ideas may work for some folks but for me they just depressed me more.  They were too gooey or something.

So I thought I would share my own tips on how to get out of a funk.  I will call them my Funk Busters.


Buy a Vibrator – sorry… I couldn’t help myself.  It was too good of an opportunity to throw in at least one vibrator joke.  But then again, it could be a Funk Buster for you.

The Andy Griffith Show – I am actually somewhat serious about this one.  You can’t help but feel better when you watch something upbeat, funny, and especially wholesome.

Actually the point isn’t The Andy Griffith Show specifically, but something that lifts you up, takes you to a better time, and appeals to the better part of us.

For your entertainment pleasure I found a rare video of someone singing the words to theme song with some scenes from the show.


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Find a puppy to pet – How can anyone stay in a funk if they pet a puppy?  I found a couple of cute videos.  The first is about someone putting puppies to sleep and the other is waking a puppy up.


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Feel better?  I do anyway.

A Baby’s Laugh – Yep, my reputation is officially ruined.  But the joy of a baby’s laugh is infectious.  And frankly, this is the kind of infection we all need.


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I do have one more Funk Buster.  There is no video for this one but it is the most important one.

Do Something – Seriously.   I am no different than anyone else when I am in a funk.  It feels like I am swimming in molasses.  Everything is difficult… even the simple things.

The trap of a funk is that it causes us to focus on ourselves.

The videos I showed are a small start because they make you feel better.  This is when you need to make the decision to do something.  Take the joy of the moment and translate it into action.

It doesn’t have to be something big.  It can be anything that causes you to move and change focus.

So… after watching these great videos and reading this blog, turn off your computer and take a quick walk, go get a coffee, do something.

See you Monday.


Oct 12

In a Funk or Funky?


Wow… I must really be in a crappy mood.

Every time I started typing this blog entry it was negative or down.  How depressing is that?

I’m not panicking or anything (yet)… but I am starting to get weirded out a bit.  Its weirding me out because I’m typically a pretty lighthearted and upbeat person.

If you don’t believe me all you have to do is just ask my shrink, my five cats, or any of my internet friends on the Dancing With the Stars web blog.  Just kidding, just kidding… I have only four cats and a gerbil.

I guess I’m in a funk.

So I did what everyone does when they have a problem… I went to the World Wide Web to get life’s answers.

I found some amazing insights.  I thought I was full of crap.

The following were actual suggestions for getting out of a funk.  Frankly, after reading some of them I felt like I needed to remove all my knives from the house.  They would make a person feel more depressed.

If you find yourself in a funk you are to…

  • Connect with people
  • Commit to a new goal
  • Read an engrossing book or see an emotionally powerful movie
  • Wait patiently
  • Exercise

Huh?  These are the things that put me in a funk in the first place.

Now if suggestions above weren’t depressing enough the next two nearly put me over the edge

  • Come one with the spiritual world of nature
  • Use the powerful tool of self-love

There is one person that I found very intriguing.  Apparently I am in a funk because my “Vibration” is low.  Humm… vibration.

According to this one site, thinking negative thoughts are low vibration.  Therefore we are in a funk.  Of course the opposite is true.  Positive thoughts are high vibration and therefore we are happier.

You know, this person may have a point.  I’ve heard that most people set their vibrators on high.  Apparently it brings more happiness.  I don’t know from experience of course, just hear say.

The reality is we all get in bad moods.  Now if it lasts a few weeks that’s a different issue.

Check in on Thursday, hopefully I will be vibrating faster.

Oct 12

Hitting the Wall


Wow… at the end of my last blog entry I said I would see you on Monday.  I had no idea it would be Monday week.  It has been ten days since I posted.

I am not so grandiose to think anyone was pining away wondering what happened to their twice a week dose of Rushing meanderings and nuggets of nonsense.

But for some reason I hit an invisible wall that I can’t explain.  Yes, I had an incredibly busy week… but that never stopped me before.

It’s been weird because I have been very disciplined about posting.  Since January 4, 2010 I have posted 279 entries – two a week.

I posted twice a week as a commitment to myself.  That’s why I always end the blog with a day as a means of personal accountability.

I do this because my history before 2010 was to start grand noble things and then have them fizzle out.  Then they would get shoved into the jam-packed mental closet with all the other discarded initiatives.

Don’t get all smug and self-righteous.  Everyone has one of those mental closets.  You know the one.

It’s the place in your head you avoid but when you are forced to go there to hide things away, you have to slowly and carefully crack the door just enough to shove whatever it is you’re trying to get rid of.

You close the door quickly so nothing tumbles out then hope and pray the door holds to prevent all the crap from tumbling out.


Everyone has a closet or room like this… its cluttered with stuff we don’t know what to do with but we need to have some place for it so the rest of the house can be relatively neat and tidy.

But writing this blog is one thing I will continue to do.  This will not end up in the closet of fizzled promises.

It’s not because I think any of you will be upset or disappointed.  I don’t believe I have anything to say that will change the world.

But writing this blog… changes my world.

So I am going to persevere.


Perseverance, secret of all triumphs.
- Victor Hugo


There may be one day when I decide that writing this blog is over.  That will be ok.

But I will not and must not let it die a slow undignified death.

I don’t know why this week has been weird.  But it has.

The thing I have to be on guard for is my morbid need to understand why this past week disappeared.

I am giving myself permission to let it go.

So, I will see you Thursday.