November, 2012

Nov 12

Average Joe who desires to be mo.


Yep, me again.

Since my last blog entry I have been mulling over what I had written.

Toward the end of my mental meanderings I questioned the level of spiciness in my personality.

So I have been exploring the possibility of my possessing a boring, non-descript, yawn producing, bite the side of your mouth lest you fall a sleep type personality.

I used to think that I was a somewhat engaging person with a modicum of humor.  But after watching the video of Silas Robertson I realize that I have about as much spice in my personality as a baked potato.

It’s wholesome and filling but it doesn’t particularly stand out.

The natural question that follows such mental nonsense is, why is having a personality with some spice important to me?

It’s a simple answer.  I want to be unique just like everyone else.  I don’t want to be just one of a billion potatoes.  At least throw on a little bacon (well, lot’s of bacon), sour cream and some chives.



Oooo… Ahaaa, that’s better.

Of course I am taking this spicy personality thing a bit to the extreme for emphasis, but there is an important point to be made.

Are you comfortable with who you are?

Do you like who you are?


Now we all have things about ourselves that we preferred were different to some degree.  For example I wish I didn’t look so much like Brad Pitt.

Take a look at my picture.



Yep… irritating.  I am constantly asked for my autograph.  Where’s Angeline?  Paparazzi sticking their cameras in the window of my 1998 Yugo.  Very tiring.  But such are the “Pitt” falls of looking like a celebrity.

But I digress, fundamentally the question is, are you comfortable with who you are?

I am very comfortable with who I am… uh, for the most part.

Now if I am totally honest I don’t think I would be hung up on this “being comfortable in your own skin” thing if I had it all together and felt totally comfortable with myself

So I am still sorting through what all this means.

But I do know this.  Feeling comfortable with one’s self is based on how much you accept how you were created.  It took me a while but I really embrace how God made me.

I am (and you are) uniquely made.  How cool is that?

Once again, just imagine how boring this world would be if we all had similar likes, dislikes, traits, and temperaments.

Whether you have spice or your strengths tend to be on the more bland side, Viva la difference!

See you Monday.



Nov 12

Bland and Boring or Quirky and Spicy



I don’t know about you but people fascinate me.  Seriously.  I love to sit and just watch people.

I am continually amazed at the different qualities and unique quirks in people’s personalities.  I can’t imagine how boring this world would be if we all had similar likes, dislikes, traits, and temperaments.

The quirks may be something I wouldn’t do or be but I’m sure glad someone has them.  It’s sort of like what my wife and I say about Christmas decorations.

Yep, Christmas decorations.  I know the decorations reference seems totally random.  But actually there is a point.

We’ll see some strange or tacky decorations  (according to our taste) and usually say something to the effect… “I would not decorate like that but I’m glad someone does.”

The same is true about people.  So like I said earlier, the quirks may be something I wouldn’t do or be but I’m sure glad someone has them.

Yes, there are a lot of great qualities that I admire in people.   But there is one quality that I particularly appreciate.

I admire the people who are totally comfortable in their own skin.  They are who they are and they don’t seem to be bothered by the fact that they may be a bit different than the world around them.

They are totally unconcerned about what people think.

I’m not talking about a person who is selfish, self-centered and symbolically shoots everyone the bird by their outrageous in your face behavior.

I’m talking about people who are good, life-loving characters that are comfortable with their uniqueness.

Maybe this quality jumps out to me because I grew up as a preacher’s kid and I always had to be careful about what I did and what people thought.

I’m not complaining, it’s just a theory why I worry too much about what people think.

I have my unique quirkiness too but it tends to be subtler and socially acceptable.

I ran across a video of a very unique person.  He is part of a reality show called Duck Dynasty.  But even though he is part of a reality show you can tell he has some legitimate quirkiness.

Meet Silas Robertson.


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Now, I don’t want to be like Si but I am sure glad there are people like Si.

People with different personalities and quirkiness are to society what spices are to food.  They add amazing flavor to the world.

Humm… maybe this is what this topic is all about.  Maybe I think I am a bland person and add no real spice to the world.

I will have to mull that over a bit.

I think I’m a pretty spicy person but then again that can be a very relative statement.  It could be that I am the most unique grain of rice in a bland batch.

Maybe I need to liven myself up a bit.

See you Thursday.

Nov 12

Yep… Thanksgiving Meanderings


Believe it or not… I am still alive.

Yes, your calculations are correct.  It has been nine days since my last blog entry… nine days.

I have no real excuse, but things have been pretty weird.

The unfortunate reality is that this entry also is being typed in a hospital room.  It has not been a good nine days.

Thankfully it looks like my family member is not in a life threatening place… but there were some touchy moments.

So there is a lot to be thankful for on this day before Thanksgiving.

But don’t get yourself all worked expecting a syrupy sweet, heart tugging, tear jerking, schmaltzy Thanksgiving Day list of all the things to be thankful for.

Yes, there is plenty to be thankful for.  Blessings galore.

You ought to know by now that I am not going to be that predictable.

I love Thanksgiving but I think I love unpredictability more… with a splash of irreverence thrown in.

So I went on a search to find a couple of funny, slightly irreverent, somewhat questionable and not very politically correct videos.



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OK, granted the last video was not the best video in the world but I needed something to break the monotony of sitting in the hospital room.

The next one has some big stars in it and is pretty funny.


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Regardless of where you are… make time to be thankful.

Yep, I’m still sitting here in a hospital room and I am very thankful… bored (as you can see from the videos) but thankful.

Gobble, gobble… have a wonderful Thanksgiving.

Nov 12

Selfish Bastards


Hello again.

I know the title put a few of you on edge.  The “B” word is not a regular part of my vocabulary.  But as you read you will understand why.

I am sitting in a hospital room with a family member.  It’s not serious enough to warrant I.C.U. treatment but bad enough to need someone handy to help with simple stuff.

So I sit here pecking away on my computer hoping that I won’t be called on to provide some sort of nursing aide.

A cough, moan, grunt or sudden beep from one of the machines round the bed sets me on edge.  It’s the type of noise that demands that I cast aside my uneasiness about such things and do what needs to be done.

It’s not that I’m not willing to help; it’s just that I’m not very good at hospital stuff.

I find that hanging around a hospital really makes me want to take care of myself.   I want to leave, run to a gym, have a workout, eat a low fat meal and bathe in Purell.

But I’m honest, all this take care of myself motivation doesn’t last too long.  I’m already trying to decide what I want for lunch and it doesn’t include yogurt or greens.

Also, there is something about hospitals that I find weird.  Hospitals completely drain you.

It’s like an energy removing machine that sucks every ounce of life out of your body.  I sit here barely staying awake as drool drops on my computer… well… I may be exaggerating a bit.  But you catch my drift.

As you can tell, I don’t like hospitals.  They give me the willies.

But my discomfort and dislike for hospitals doesn’t matter.  It’s family.

Families are there when you need them.  I would not want to be a part of a family that is only around when things are fun and happy.  Everyone can be a good friend or family member when the good times are rollin’.

But when things are tough and the situation forces us to get out of our comfort zone… then real family love is revealed.

I am not saying this to pat myself on the back, not at all.  Frankly, I’m not that special.

I have been here less than other family members.  But I do want my loved one to know that I’m willing to be there when things are tough.

If a person only makes decisions based on their own personal comfort and desires they are simply a narcissistic pig.


Being selfish to me means that you have to look out for yourself and you don’t have to sacrifice.
- Herbie Mann

Yep… pretty strong words… but true.

There are people like that in the world and far too many.  I have been in situations where I have had to visit the hospital or nursing homes enough to know that there are thousands of people sitting alone suffering.

There can be few things more lonely than to suffer by yourself.

That’s why I used the phrase – Selfish Bastards.  The focus of their life is “all about me” and nothing else.  They will occasionally do things but only if convenient or self-serving in some way.


What a cage is to the wild beast, law is to the selfish man.
- Herbert Spencer

A selfish man is a thief.
– Jose Marti


Yes, we all want things to go our way and we all would rather not do things that are uncomfortable or put us out.

But the reality is, the more we give of ourselves the greater we grow.

Selfish people are small people.

See you later.


Nov 12

To vote or not to vote… that is the question


Hi there… welcome back.

No matter how hard I tried I couldn’t keep my mind nor my fingers from swerving toward the topic of the election tomorrow.

Don’t worry… this will not be a political blog entry.  We all have had our fill of ads, promises and the opponents taking cheap shots at each other.

But I do want to talk about the amazing opportunity we have to choose; to select who we want to lead our wonderful country.  Sometimes as a country we make good choices and sometimes we make bad choices… but at least we get to choose.

It’s sort of like a grander version of our personal life.  We reap the benefits of well thought out decisions and suffer the consequences of…. Uh…. Shall we say… not so good decisions.

Now the only troubling thing is if you are trying to make a good decision (in your opinion) but the majority of the population are made up of stupid people who have a different opinion.


In America, through pressure of conformity, there is freedom of choice, but nothing to choose from.
-  Peter Ustinov


Frankly I don’t want stupid people making decisions that affect me.  But strangely enough, people on the other side of the aisle are saying the same thing.

They actually think that I am a stouped person… go figure.

I can see it now on Wednesday morning, about 51% of the population will be ecstatic while the other 49% will be pissed because their candidate did not win.

So what do you do if you happen to be one of the brilliant 49%?  You continue to love our country and work harder to make it better.

Yep, no matter how distasteful, we have to support the decision.

Now in full disclosure, if my candidate doesn’t win it will probably take me a month or two to work through my depression.  But I do believe that it is important to support the office of President.

Once again, regardless of who wins or looses… I would rather live in a country where at least we have the opportunity to choose.


Democracy makes us articulate our views, defend them, and refine them.
- Lee H. Hamilton


I think Lee Hamilton hit the nail on the head.  Democracy forces us to work at and define what we believe.  It forces us to articulate with clarity our stand on issues.

There is no question Democracy can be messy… especially during election time.

But I would not want it any other way.

Hopefully you will be one of the ecstatic 51% on Wednesday.  If not… support the President and work to make it better.