The clue phone is ringing.










Wow, I fell off the face of the earth yesterday.

I guess the Labor Day holiday messed with my head or something.  It was mid-afternoon before I connected the dots that it was a MONDAY.

So … I apologize for the one day delay of posting the blog… my bad.

Last Thursday I talked about people who try to be something they are not.  If you didn’t get a chance to read Thursday’s blog all you have to do is scroll down and look at the two cowboy pictures and you will see immediately what I am talking about.

I mentioned that it is natural for people to want to try new things to see if they like something or maybe discover a hidden talent.

Here’s the tricky part.

How does one discover without becoming delusional?  It is a balance of both risk and reality.

To grow, advance, or accomplish something great one has to fearlessly press forward against the odds.  We must take big risks.

There has to be belief, strength and tenaciousness that comes from the depths to withstand the pressure one feels to conform to limits we feel or the limits that other people place on you.

I read an interesting article about the best selling author, Kathryn Stockett who wrote The Help.

Her manuscript of The Help was turned down sixty times (yes, six – zero).





In the article it said:

“… I opened my 40th rejection: “There is no market for this kind of tiring writing.” That one finally made me cry.

“That was a hard weekend. I spent it in pajamas, slothing around that racetrack of self-pity—you know the one, from sofa to chair to bed to refrigerator, starting over again on the sofa. But I couldn’t let go of The Help. Call it tenacity, call it resolve or call it what my husband calls it: stubbornness.”

She went on to say…

“The point is, I can’t tell you how to succeed. But I can tell you how not to: Give in to the shame of being rejected and put your manuscript—or painting, song, voice, dance moves, [insert passion here]—in the coffin that is your bedside drawer and close it for good.”

- Excerpt from MORE (web magazine –


Let’s be really honest for a moment.  Most people aren’t like Kathryn Stockett.  She was someone who knew in her inner core that the book was good and she needed to press on.

Unfortunately most people fall into two less desirable camps.

First there are those people who stop when they should keep pressing on… they need a big dose of RISK.

And secondly there are some who keep going on when they should stop… they need a big dose of REALITY.

As most of you know, I have worked hard to encourage people to step out, take a risk and press on.

But there is the other side of the coin.  There are some people who need to answer the “clue phone”.  Some people need to stop and get a reality check.

I can see most of you cringe when you read the last statement.  Me too.  But, what I said is true.

Side Note: My wife says I get negative from this point on.  So… heads up.

What’s sad is that some people are drowning in their delusion and need someone to help channel their energy in another direction.

Unfortunately I see more and more people like this.  I think part of the reason is that our society wants to protect children from reality so much that artificial success is created.

I understand the sentiment but kids are robbed of the sweet taste of accomplishment that only comes through struggle, tenacity and hard work.

The “Clue Phone” rings and they never answer.

They live in a delusion that keeps them oblivious to a reality that is so obvious to everyone else – a cardboard cowboy.  (Hey, my wife warned you.)

So how does a person learn what is real?  A person has to be open enough to listen, honest enough to look at the circumstances, and clearly discern what’s really possible.

I am not trying to be negative or discourage anyone.  What I do want to do is to help us look reality in the face and discern what’s possible.

You see, I would rather expend energy on where I can go and what I can do vs. run endlessly on a moving sidewalk to nowhere.

I’m sure I have some who disagree.  Let me know what you think.

See you Thursday.

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