Don’t forget to remember to forget… Huh!?


Yes, I know the title is a bit confusing.  But that’s not unusual is it?

We talked in the last blog about how the memory naturally fades.

The details of life seem to slowly fall off the edge of the mental plate, displaced by today’s details and events.  I thought the animated poem video called “Forgetfulness” in the last blog entry was pretty right on.


Happiness is nothing more than good health and a bad memory.
- Albert Schweitzer



There are some things in our lives that are branded in our memory.  These are the memories on the extreme fringes of the continuum of life… something of wonderful joy (e.g. birth of a child) or severe pain (a tragedy of some sort).

The details of the middle ground go first.  There is no emotional anchor to hold them in place.  But over time, even the details of those extreme moments begin to take their leave while the emotion of the moment holds strong.

But the real tricky part is this… if not careful we forget the things we need to remember and remember the things we need to forget.

Yes, there are some things we need to forget… but we choose to remember them.  The operative word is CHOOSE.

There are some memories that we have intentionally kept in tact.

We have all heard of selective memory, but there is also selective forgetting.


Forgetfulness – a gift of God bestowed upon debtors in compensation for their destitution of conscience.
- Ambrose Bierce


There are some things we hang on to that become an anchor keeping us from moving forward.

So the logical question is, why do we hang on to something that is keeping us down?

Believe it or not… there is a payoff for hanging on.  We don’t do anything without a payoff (a topic to explore in more detail at another time).

For example, some people think that by letting go it somehow lets the other person off the hook.  The payoff for hanging on in their mind is that it validates the severity of offense.

Dealing with these bad things is very simple… NOT easy… but simple.

First we have to be willing to honestly look to see if there is anything that you are hanging on to that is keeping you from going where you want and need to go.

Now we all have our baggage that hinders us.  But what I am talking about are the things we hang on to.

Forgetting and letting go is a choice.  It even talks about the need to forget the past in the Bible.


“But one thing I do: Forgetting what is behind and straining toward what is ahead.”

Philippians 3:13


.Side Note: As you can see I had a difficult time finding a picture of the Apostle Paul.  If you happen to run across a picture of him please pass it on.  It would be helpful for future quotes.

So, as the title says, don’t forget to remember to forget.

Ciao, see you Monday.

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