Kidnapped by Aliens

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Good to see you again.

Those of you who have been reading my blog know that I have been totally absent for the past four months.  Off the grid.  AWOL.  Nowhere to be found.  GONE!

Very honestly I wish I had a good excuse for my absence.  I think the best excuse would be something like being kidnapped by aliens (the spaceship type not the south of the border type).

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But alas, I have no good excuse.  I took a leave because I just needed a break.

In all candor, I had a tough time not feeling guilty.  My not writing fed into one of my biggest hang-ups, the feeling of letting people down, and letting myself down.

This may sound strange but I was finally able to let go of the guilt and negative thinking by giving myself permission to take a break.  I did, and it was good.

Of course, these opening lines force the obvious question that someone reading this blog entry wants me to ignore.

What is the thing that has been nagging, eating or dogging you that you need to give yourself permission to start or stop doing?

Seriously.  Someone visiting the site today (maybe you) has been hanging on to something that has been dragging them down.  And out of some sense of false obligation or weird programming they have been unwilling or unable to give themselves permission to take the right step.

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Okay, now you have permission.  But frankly it doesn’t matter what I think.  You don’t need my permission.  You need your permission.

So why is it so difficult to give yourself permission to do something that’s good?  I believe I can answer the question with two words – expectations and lies.

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We become invisibly trapped by the unspoken expectations we have on ourselves or those we think others have on us.

Yes, there are legitimate expectations in life.  They’re real and can be burdensome at times.

But we also need to be aware of the fact that far too many expectations (the majority in my opinion) are fictitious cords we have allowed to bind.

These are beliefs that at one time may have carried a modicum of truth but morphed into lies because the reality or situation changed but our thinking did not.

I have used this phrase several times but it is always worth repeating.

One day I was looking at the word rationalize and it struck me.  Divide the word and it clearly describes the mental and emotional trap.

Rationalize = Rational Lies

When we rationalize away a positive action step or growth we are just telling ourselves rational lies.

Kind of scary huh?  But we all do it.  I don’t know about you but I am finding that life is much too short to focus on the lies that hold me back.

It’s good to be back.  Thanks for joining me.

See you Monday.

Ciao.

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