Change Anyone?

Hi there. 

I start with a promise today.  I promise no burrito remarks.  My wife thought it might have been a bit over used in the last blog entry.  Frankly I don’t understand the concern.  I think there’s always room for a good burrito comment in any literary effort, don’t you? 

Okay, now to more meaningful endeavors.  As you know I have been talking about this “stirring” thing the past several blog entries.  Being stirred is one thing but what you do with it is another.

Thinking about doing something is easy.  It’s kind of like an emotional double shot of bourbon.  Thinking feels good for the moment and slowly dulls your senses to reality.  And before you know it the stirring has been put in its place and neatly tucked away till next time.

Anytime you embark on a journey that stretches you, it is a journey into the unknown.  But fair warning, the unknown has the power to paralyze. 

For me, I became paralyzed.  Usually the unknown paralyzes people because the natural default is to fill the void with negative scenarios.

I launched this blog January 4, 2010, but I started thinking about it for a good ten to twelve months before hand.  The fact that I was considering something that was so far outside my comfort zone paralyzed me.

You may be the type that throws yourself into new things pretty easily.  I envy you, I guess.  But there is something about venturing into those dangerous areas of life.  If you feel no danger then you may not be stepping out far enough.

If you truly step beyond yourself then failure is a legitimate likelihood.  You step into that realm and you will never be the same. 

            “A mind stretched to a new idea never returns to its original dimensions.”

            – Oliver Wendell Holmes

 

This is also true in regards to personal growth.  Stepping into something beyond us changes us.  You will never be the same.

Now this is where it can get really dicey.  When we change, things around us change.  It not because we are trying to change it intentionally but it occur naturally. 

Usually we try to change things by changing other people… this can be very messy.  Let’s face it; we don’t like it when people try to change us. 

I have learned a long time ago and my mantra has been change affects change

I change, things change.  We tend to be consumed with what changes other people need to make.  I believe more and more in the core of my being that I must be open to who and what I am and change where I need to change.

I change because it’s the right thing for the right reasons.  But changers beware.  When you change, people will want to force you back into the box that maintains their normalcy. 

This is where personal resolve of doing what’s right is tested. 

I am sure that I have shared this before but it is worth repeating.  I always heard that marriage required work.

I’m pretty aware and I don’t tend to be selfish so I thought the work will be things like trying to understand her needs or doing my share around the house. 

When things weren’t going smoothly I felt like she needed to change.  Boy was I wrong.  The work required in any marriage is on YOURSELF. 

If both people are working on themselves it makes a wonderful marriage, not perfect, but amazing.

So, if you are willing to step beyond yourself the rewards are magnificent. 

So I encourage you on your journey to step out beyond where you are.  Try something new, something that stretches you.

See you Thursday.  Burrito Boy… signing off.

P.S.  I just couldn’t help myself with the burrito comment.  And yes, I realize it was childish and silly.

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