Posts Tagged: adventure


22
Mar 13

It’s a MAN Thing

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Welcome back.

I’m not sure what’s going on with me today but I have this urge to talk about men stuff.  What that means exactly I don’t know, but somehow this blog will be about men stuff.

Maybe this outburst is because my “T” levels are elevated today.

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Side Note: For you ladies out there, “ T ” is man jargon for testosterone.

Well… that’s what the commercial I heard said while driving in this morning.

Women like their high tea and men need their “ T ” high.

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I’m sure that when my wife reads this blog later today she will suddenly pause, lean toward the screen, scrunch her nose and squint her eyes, and in her head (maybe out loud) she’ll scream, “what in the world is he doing?!”

My response is, “I don’t know.  It just happened.  Blame it on high “T”.  Don’t worry I won’t embarrass you.”

But who knows for sure about embarrassing her because the blog isn’t finished yet.

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There are three kinds of men. The one that learns by reading. The few who learn by observation. The rest of them have to pee on the electric fence for themselves.
- Will Rogers
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Men for the most part are pretty simple.  It doesn’t mean we’re dumb, it just means that we don’t have as many moving parts.

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I don’t know about you, but I find that women can be pretty complex.  Now don’t take my word for it… just ask a women.

This is not a put down on women; it’s just recognition of how we’re made.  The simplicity of men and the complexity of women are part of the divine creation.

A couple of years ago I shared the two-minute version of this video. I ran across the expanded version of The Difference Between Men & Women.  It is both very insightful and very funny.

It is definitely worth viewing.

I was right huh?  Insightful and funny.

Yes, I really like my cozy little “nothing box”.  If you have no idea what the last sentence means you need to go back and see the video… seriously, you’ll be glad you did.

Although we men are pretty simple it doesn’t mean we’re easy to get along with.  We have our issues like women have theirs.

As all of you know, men can be a bit stubborn at times.  Not only can we be stubborn… we don’t need to stop for directions.

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Stubborn isn’t a word I would use to describe myself; pigheaded is more appropriate.

- Michael Bloomberg

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My “T” level must be waning because I have this sudden urge to stop for a cup of tea and watch Oprah.

Humm… nah… I’m going to watch the NCAA basketball tournament.

See you Monday.


25
Feb 13

Simply Divine

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Hi there, welcome back.

Those of you who have been reading my blog for a while know that I am a sucker for anything creative.

I love it when I am stopped in my tracks by something completely unexpected because someone had a stroke of creative genius.

As you will see I have sprinkled a few pictures that I think are wonderfully creative and a few quotes thrown in for good measure.

How good is that?  Good pictures and a few good quotes.

Yes, I agree, this is a strange picture but I would have never thought of it.

The amazing miracle of creativity is that stirs that invisible something deep within.

I personally believe that we are moved by the creative because it reflects our Creator.  Don’t worry I’m not going to get all religious on you.  But there is something to be said about the Divine DNA we all possess.

Yep… whether you believe it or not, we all carry the marks of our Creator.

Don’t get all weirded out because you’re concerned I’m going to get preachy or syrupy religious.  I never have and I never will.  It’s not my place to get you to believe in a loving God.  I couldn’t if I wanted to.

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I think creativity is spiritual. I absolutely believe that.

F. Murray Abraham

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I just share interesting truths that make us think, cause us to ask questions, and just open our minds to consider new notions about life.

Creativity – what an amazing gift!

This gift allows us to step beyond the confines of the existing to the freedom of what’s never been.

Pretty cool sculpture huh?

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Creativity has more to do with the elimination of the inessential than with inventing something new.

-Helmut Jahn

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Creativity has as much with what you remove as what you add.  It causes us to see beyond where we are or what is known.

When we step beyond the confines of our current thinking there comes an irrepressible freedom.  It is a feeling of freedom because we dared to believe or explore the possibilities beyond the known.

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Creativity requires the courage to let go of certainties.

- Erich Fromm

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Think about how good you feel when you come up with a creative solution to a dogging problem or create something out of your imagination.

Yes… creativity is divine… beautifully divine.

See you Thursday.


29
Nov 12

Average Joe who desires to be mo.

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Yep, me again.

Since my last blog entry I have been mulling over what I had written.

Toward the end of my mental meanderings I questioned the level of spiciness in my personality.

So I have been exploring the possibility of my possessing a boring, non-descript, yawn producing, bite the side of your mouth lest you fall a sleep type personality.

I used to think that I was a somewhat engaging person with a modicum of humor.  But after watching the video of Silas Robertson I realize that I have about as much spice in my personality as a baked potato.

It’s wholesome and filling but it doesn’t particularly stand out.

The natural question that follows such mental nonsense is, why is having a personality with some spice important to me?

It’s a simple answer.  I want to be unique just like everyone else.  I don’t want to be just one of a billion potatoes.  At least throw on a little bacon (well, lot’s of bacon), sour cream and some chives.

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Oooo… Ahaaa, that’s better.

Of course I am taking this spicy personality thing a bit to the extreme for emphasis, but there is an important point to be made.

Are you comfortable with who you are?

Do you like who you are?

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Now we all have things about ourselves that we preferred were different to some degree.  For example I wish I didn’t look so much like Brad Pitt.

Take a look at my picture.

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Yep… irritating.  I am constantly asked for my autograph.  Where’s Angeline?  Paparazzi sticking their cameras in the window of my 1998 Yugo.  Very tiring.  But such are the “Pitt” falls of looking like a celebrity.

But I digress, fundamentally the question is, are you comfortable with who you are?

I am very comfortable with who I am… uh, for the most part.

Now if I am totally honest I don’t think I would be hung up on this “being comfortable in your own skin” thing if I had it all together and felt totally comfortable with myself

So I am still sorting through what all this means.

But I do know this.  Feeling comfortable with one’s self is based on how much you accept how you were created.  It took me a while but I really embrace how God made me.

I am (and you are) uniquely made.  How cool is that?

Once again, just imagine how boring this world would be if we all had similar likes, dislikes, traits, and temperaments.

Whether you have spice or your strengths tend to be on the more bland side, Viva la difference!

See you Monday.

Ciao.

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3
Aug 12

Bound and high in the sky or Loose and down to the ground?

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I don’t know about you, but I like having my way.  I don’t think I’m that unusual.

Humans are funny like that.  We want what we want when we want it.

We don’t like anything to get between us and where we what to go or have anything hinder us from getting what we want to have.  We don’t want resistance or restriction.

Most people just get irritated because it’s not a big deal.  We don’t tend get to pushy or become too nasty when something stands in our way.

But we can get very angry or nasty!

There are two factors that kick us in the pushy or nasty category.  The two factors that elevate our antagonism or frustration are the level of one’s desire for something plus the level of restriction we feel keeping us from it.

Regardless of the level of restriction, I’m just saying that we would prefer having life without it.

But is having no resistance or restriction what we really want or need?

I think not.

Having resistance is one of the greatest hidden gifts we can receive in life.

Think about it.  Where would your life be today if you never faced any resistance?

What kind of a person would you be?

Resistance is a good thing.  It enhances vs. detracts.  The right restriction or resistance strengthens us as-well-as channels energy to have greatest impact.

For example, the kite would never soar without resistance of the string.

The string allows the kite to catch the air that lifts.  The tether that seemingly restricts is the very thing that allows the kite to fulfill its purpose.

Without something holding the kite back it would never reach its full potential.  It would just drift back to the ground never to fly.

Another example is the balloon.  The helium in the balloon needs the restriction of the rubber to keep its qualities to lift intact.

Reaching the heights would never have been accomplished without the restriction.

It’s so easy to be upset or disgruntled by things that seem to hold us back.  The proper amount of resistance is the very thing that makes us better and creates the success.

When faced with things that seem to hold us back we have one of two choices.  We either channel our energy fighting it, or we channel our energy to align ourselves with the resistance to get the most out of it.

Now I can hear a lot of you yelling at the computer screen with all kinds of examples of where restriction can be a bad thing.

Yes, it’s true.  Too much restriction can be just as bad as too little resistance.

But our natural default is to resist anything that we feel hinders us.  There is much more positive that comes from resistance than negative.

Ciao… see you Monday.


7
May 12

The BIG Push or Pull

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When I started the blog over two years ago it was because something was stirring inside.  There was something that longed to see the light of day and a voice that needed to be heard.

I really don’t know if I have succeeded but I can say I like where I am today much better than where I was three years ago before I ventured beyond the wall.

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Side Note: You may be wondering about the wall I am referring to.  When I started the blog I referred to being comfortable behind the garden wall and wondering if there was something beyond.

I recommend that you go back to the first couple of blogs and check them out.  All you have to do is go to the archives column on the right, click on January 2010 and scroll down to the first blog and go from there.

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Before we go on I need to press in on a very important point.

You will get more out of the adventure of stepping into the unknown if you know the primary motivation for the decision to step forward.

The motivation or impetus for taking a bold step into the dark is basically one of two things.  Either you are being drawn to something (a PULL) or you are getting away from (a PUSH).

There may be elements of both but primarily it is one or the other.

For me it was definitely the PULL.   There were things about my life that I wanted to improve but basically I was very, very happy with where I was.  My life was amazingly good.

But I knew in the depths of my being… there was more.

The “more” was not a childish desire to grab things that are shiny and sweet to the taste, but a deeper (I believe divine) knowledge that I am living below where we all are created to be.

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We long for more but dare not believe that more is possible.

-  Penelope Stokes

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For you the motivation may be totally different.  You may be in a situation where things are pretty crappy where you are and you have decided – ENOUGH!!!

You may not hear a call, feel a pull or believe there is something more.  That’s ok.

Take it from me as someone who has decided to cast off from the shore and launch into the deep… it’s kinda scary but oh my – I wouldn’t change a minute of if.

Whether you are in the PUSH or PULL group there is one thing that is the same for both.  Open your heart and head and listen.

Some people decide to take this step and recklessly jump into the first thing that comes along.  The natural tendency is to latch on to anything when you’re in the dark.

If you are open and listening you will sense and know if the things you encounter are good or not so good.  The struggle to determine the good or the bad are part of the growing process.

Be comforted in the fact that bold steps like this are God things.  Now don’t worry, I’m not get all preachy on you.  But it is important to know that growth and a better life are divine.

As I wrap up this blog entry today I have a couple of more thoughts that I hope will help you to join me on this amazing journey beyond where you are.

These two thoughts helped motivate me to start and continues to stir me now when I get discouraged.

The first motivator is a statement.

  • I don’t want to wake up five years from now and be where I am today.

The second motivator is a question.

  • What would you attempt if you knew you wouldn’t fail?

I hope these help as you make some decisions.  How cool!

Join me Thursday  as I continue my journey.

Ciao.


4
May 12

Hold on to your hat!

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In the last blog I mentioned that life can be an amazing adventure.  Well, this week has been proof of that… WHEW!!!!!

I started a new chapter in my life.  Things in my life jumped from a comfortable safe cruising speed of 55 mph on a well-marked spacious Interstate highway to about 120 mph on a curvy mountain road in one day.

Wow, what a wild ride.

I’m going so fast I can barely keep my hat on.  Maybe I am carrying this “life’s an adventure” thing a bit too far.

But not really.

What happened is that I actually took my own advice.  I was presented with different options… and I took the bolder.

This came from a quote that I used in the last blog entry.

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When you cannot make up your mind which of two evenly balanced courses of action you should take – choose the bolder.
-  Sir William Slim
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Frankly, jumping into a car speeding on curvy roads is quite scary.  I am not talking about doing something foolhardy but the bolder choice does involve a higher degree of risk.

I don’t know about you but I don’t want to fail or look bad.

But the “want” for a well-lived life was greater than the fear of failing.

To put it another way, the desire to stay in a secure successful place was seduced by the Siren’s song of the “what can be”.

As I said earlier, I want to live a life of adventure but not of being foolhardy.

I believe most people fall on the end of life’s continuum where it’s easy to get in a safe rut and go through life.

These are people like me who need to step out and live life fuller… and the rewards are absolutely amazing.

On the other hand there are another group of people on the other end of the continuum.

These are the people who are adrenalin junkies for new things.  They jump from one thing to another trying the latest, greatest and most dangerous.

If not careful these folks never set down roots, working through the hard issues and reaping the blessings, stability and joy this provides.

It probably sounds like I am talking out of both sides of my mouth… there are rewards to stepping out into adventures and there are rewards to a stable life.

Yes… that’s exactly what I’m saying.  There are blessings on both ends.

It’s just that we tend to gravitate to one end or the other.  Because this is where it feels the most natural and comfortable.

To experience the fullest life has to offer we must move ourselves toward the other direction.  But to do so is hard work, very hard work.

Yep, I took a big step this week.  It has been stressful but stretching.

I can’t wait to see where this new path takes me.

So I tighten my chinstrap to keep my hat from flying off.

See you Monday.


30
Apr 12

What Next?

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Yep… me again.  Thanks for hanging out with me for a while.

As you may or may not know I have spent the last three blogs talking about the power of Choice, the number of choices we have, and the challenges this presents.

So I think I have massaged, poked at, and beaten the Choice topic sufficiently.

But your journey does not end with the selection of a choice or the making of a decision.  In fact, this is just the beginning.

Life is a continual series of steps.  There were several steps that led up to making a choice.  But the moment a choice is made, that moment becomes the past.

So, what’s next determines the destination.

We can only act in the present.  The past is gone and future is “not yet”.

Our choice reveals the desired destination but the action in the moment determines where we end up.

I would like to encourage and challenge you with a couple of thoughts as to moving forward when a decision is made.

First, I want to encourage you to “not to settle” for less than what can be for you.

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When you cannot make up your mind which of two evenly balanced courses of action you should take, choose the bolder.
-  Sir William Slim
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I love this quote.  It really challenges me.  I have found myself asking this question in situations and have been the better for it.

Yes, it is easier and less stressful to take the more predictable path.  The bolder path has more unknowns.

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The ability to feel fear and keep moving forward distinguishes the living from the merely breathing.
- Nicholas Lore, The Pathfinder

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Life is too short to settle.

Secondly, don’t wait… move, take the step.

You have thought through the implications while making the decision.  Now is the time to act and act quickly.

The longer you wait the less likely you will move.  MOVE NOW!

There is power in action.

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In actual life every great enterprise begins with and takes its first forward step in faith.

-  Friedrich Von Schlegel

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Thirdly, don’t look back.

Face forward and move.  I have said this several times in my blog over the years, don’t let the past corrupt the future.

Looking back is wasted energy.

Consult not your fears but your hopes and your dreams. Think not about your frustrations, but about your unfulfilled potential. Concern yourself not with what you tried and failed in, but with what it is still possible for you to do.

- Pope John XXIII
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I, like you, have stepped out and failed my fair share of times.

It is not pleasant.

But if I want a full life, I choose to

  • Make a choice
  • Make the bolder choice
  • Take a step
  • Not look  back

Life is a grand adventure… what a joy.

See you Thursday.

Ciao!


26
Mar 12

Saucy or Syrupy?

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OK, my venting is over.  I am back to the lovable me again.

Usually I recommend that people go back and read old blog entries, but in this case… it’s not worth your effort.

Anyway, if you read it you might get all riled up and someone would have to sedate you.  I want to save you from the embarrassment.

I promise to be more genteel today.

Humm… genteel doesn’t become me either.  For some reason the thought of being genteel makes me nauseous.

So, I’ll just be me… to your chagrin I’m sure.

As you can see from my writing thus far, I’m torn.  I don’t like being a venting angry person and I don’t want to be too loveable and genteel.

If I am really honest I’m generally a very nice person.  Historically, probably too nice.

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I was like one of those nauseatingly nice children. I was very, very well behaved and boring.
- Helena Bonham Carter

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Yes, that probably describes it… nice but boring.

Don’t get me wrong, nice is a good thing – a very good thing.  But if not careful the tendency is that if a person is nice they are vanilla.  I want to be nice but I don’t want to be vanilla.

The more I think about it, I want nice with spunk and personality.  I have no idea what flavor that would be but for sure it’s not vanilla.  By the way, I would appreciate any flavor suggestions.

Some people think that if you’re nice you can’t win.  You’re a loooossser!

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Nice guys finish last.

- Leo Durocher

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That’s not accurate at all.  If Leo’s statement is true then it means that only mean people finish first.  You mustn’t confuse nice with being non-competitive.

Also you must make sure you are playing the same game and that you have the same definition of “win”.

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Nice guys may appear to finish last, but usually they’re running a different race.

- Ken Blanchard, The Power of Ethical Management

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Remember… I am a fan… a big fan of being nice.  I even try to live by the motto of There’s always time to be nice.

But if we are not careful, nice can cross a line.

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The difference is too nice – Where ends the virtue or begins the vice.
- Alexander Pope

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That’s interesting… nice as a vice, not a virtue.

If someone is too nice they may be perceived as being a person who stands for nothing or will not fight for anything.

So this begs some interesting questions.  Are you willing to fight for something?  If you do fight for something, do you have to be nasty and mean to fight?

To me the answers are simple… Yes and No… in that order.

I feel pretty good with this.  I don’t like to fight but I know what I believe and can take stands pretty forcibly when needed.

So I guess I am a self described nice person.

I would like to think that I am a saucy nice not a syrupy nice.

How would you describe yourself?

See you Thursday.


26
Jan 12

Power of Words

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Words are remarkable.  Simple sounds from our mouths communicate our hearts and intentions to those who will listen.  Getting people to listen is the tricky part.

I am very impressed with people who possess an extensive vocabulary and have a command of the language, seriously.

I like big words, fancy words, I just don’t have too many to share.

I tell people that I have a college degree but I’m not very educated.  Unfortunately there is more truth to that statement than I would care to admit.

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Don’t use words too big for the subject. Don’t say “infinitely” when you mean “very”; otherwise you’ll have no word left when you want to talk about something really infinite.
- C. S. Lewis

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For me, I am still working on small simple words.  This may sound odd but I find these small simple words the most profound.

I’m talking about single syllable words that are casually used as filler around the larger fancier words.

Words like A, The, If, In, etc.  These simple words in the right setting are life changing.  I am not kidding… LIFE CHANGING.

Let me give you an example.  Let’s take a closer look at the word IF.

I heard someone use the phrase, half of LIFE is “IF”.

It’s a catchy little phrase.  The problem with catchy phrases is that we can easily lose sight of the truth it is proclaiming or the point it is making.

There is something about this simple word that is amazingly powerful… “IF”.

It denotes a possibility of something else.

Here lies its sobering power.  This simple word in our lives either propels us forward into the joyous adventure of the unknown or it entraps us in the past or current circumstances.

The direction your life takes depends on your selection of two one of words used to adjoin IF.

What or Only.

“What if…” is very future oriented.  It takes us forward.

“Only if…” or “If only…” is past oriented or current state focued.

The word we use more often with IF tells a lot about ourselves and where we focus our lives.

Over the next couple of blog entries I will dig more deeply into the two choices we make with this simple two letter word IF.

See you Monday.

Ciao.


23
Jan 12

Comfortable Tiny World

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It’s a very cold dreary day today and I am making sure I stay warm and toasty.

Call me silly, but I like to be comfortable… physically, emotionally… you name it, I like comfort.

I think wanting to be comfortable is very natural for the most part.  Comfort is NOT a bad thing whatsoever… unless.  Yes, there is an unless.

Although comfort is ok for the most part, there is a dark side.  In fact, there are some aspects of life where comfort is deadly.

You want to know the scary thing?  It’s not a death we see coming.

Comfort gone bad creates a matchbox life lined with cotton.

It’s a comfortable and safe, tiny world.  And it seems to protect us to the sting of the prickly things of life that come from change and real growth.

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What starts out as a natural attempt to make our lives happy, easily becomes a feather pillow for mediocrity.  And if left unchecked we become consumed with feeding our addiction of comfort for self.

Comfort sweetly and quietly lulls us to sleep and then slowly suffocates the person we can be.  And at that point our world has become a cozy little matchbox coffin of “what could have been”.

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In all life one should comfort the afflicted, but verily, also, one should afflict the comfortable, and especially when they are comfortably, contentedly, even happily wrong.
- John Kenneth Galbraith

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If not aroused out of our cocoon stupor our fate is sealed.   We never realize the fullness life has to offer.

It is important to note that when I talk about fullness of life, I do not necessarily mean needing to experience or taste all that our world offers.  It is not traveling to exotic places and trying new things that make a life fulfilling.

A fulfilled life comes from growth, real vibrant growth.  And growth is not a life of ease nor comfort.   It’s a risky business, and frankly, painful at times.

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Life is known only by those who have found a way to be comfortable with change and the unknown. Given the nature of life, there may be no security, but only adventure.
-Rachel Naomi Remen

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There is bad pain, which I want to avoid, and good pain (a sign of life and growth) which I want to embrace.

God forbid that I choose comfort over growth, or ease over progress in my life.

I don’t know where I will end up… but oh the joy of the adventure of growing as a person… personally, emotionally, intellectually and especially Spiritually.

Well I want to restate a portion of the prior sentence.  I stated that I didn’t know where I would end up on this grand adventure.  That is very very true.  But I do know where I will not end up… in a match box coffin.

I say this a lot, and it cannot be said enough, we live so far below what God wants for His cherished children.

So over time I have learned to be more comfortable with being uncomfortable.

How cool is that?