Posts Tagged: mood


8
Oct 12

In a Funk or Funky?

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Wow… I must really be in a crappy mood.

Every time I started typing this blog entry it was negative or down.  How depressing is that?

I’m not panicking or anything (yet)… but I am starting to get weirded out a bit.  Its weirding me out because I’m typically a pretty lighthearted and upbeat person.

If you don’t believe me all you have to do is just ask my shrink, my five cats, or any of my internet friends on the Dancing With the Stars web blog.  Just kidding, just kidding… I have only four cats and a gerbil.

I guess I’m in a funk.

So I did what everyone does when they have a problem… I went to the World Wide Web to get life’s answers.

I found some amazing insights.  I thought I was full of crap.

The following were actual suggestions for getting out of a funk.  Frankly, after reading some of them I felt like I needed to remove all my knives from the house.  They would make a person feel more depressed.

If you find yourself in a funk you are to…

  • Connect with people
  • Commit to a new goal
  • Read an engrossing book or see an emotionally powerful movie
  • Wait patiently
  • Exercise

Huh?  These are the things that put me in a funk in the first place.

Now if suggestions above weren’t depressing enough the next two nearly put me over the edge

  • Come one with the spiritual world of nature
  • Use the powerful tool of self-love

There is one person that I found very intriguing.  Apparently I am in a funk because my “Vibration” is low.  Humm… vibration.

According to this one site, thinking negative thoughts are low vibration.  Therefore we are in a funk.  Of course the opposite is true.  Positive thoughts are high vibration and therefore we are happier.

You know, this person may have a point.  I’ve heard that most people set their vibrators on high.  Apparently it brings more happiness.  I don’t know from experience of course, just hear say.

The reality is we all get in bad moods.  Now if it lasts a few weeks that’s a different issue.

Check in on Thursday, hopefully I will be vibrating faster.


18
Nov 11

Are you a swinger?

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Hi, welcome back.

First of all, don’t let the title scare you.  I’m not talking about that kind of swinger.

Secondly, I am in a much better mood than I was on Monday.  I feel pretty chipper today.

Side Note: Humm… do you ever wonder where words or phrases people use on a regular basis originate?

Chipper… Why chipper?  Oh well, at least you know what I mean.  By the way, if anyone is aware of the origin I would love to know.

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I find it interesting that we as humans can have so many different moods – many, many kinds of moods.

There are good moods, bad moods, calm moods – you name it, we have it.

Whether you realize it or not, while sitting there in the glow of the computer screen you are in a mood.  Maybe it’s calm, impatient, negative, happy, etc.  None-the-less you’re in a mood.


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Do any of you remember the old Mood Rings?  They worked well huh?

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You can learn a lot about a person (or yourself) by the types of moods they generally have and what causes the moods.

We all want and like good moods.  The ones that cause the damage are the bad moods, so that will be where I spend most of my time focusing.

There is no question that I have my good days and bad days, but for the most part I am generally in a pretty good mood.
Some people’s mood soar back and forth like a six year old on the playground swing, while others gently sway like a porch swing.

I had a friend one time tell me that he was even tempered – always in a bad mood.

Now before I start meddling, let me first say that I believe that there are two basic categories for moods – legitimate and chosen.

Legitimate moods are those that have their basis in something physiological or (I say this with much reserve) circumstantial.  We have little or no control over these moods.  We do have some control over how we exhibit the moods, but not so much the mood itself.

Chosen are the moods that we have due to life situations.  These are completely within our control.

Side Note: Stick with me and don’t skim read.

I know this is a bit boring or seems elementary but I can assure you that your nose will be tweaked before we finish.

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This is where I start meddling.

I believe in the core of my being that 90% of our moods are chosen and the remaining 10% are honestly legitimate.

Now here’s the big lie.  We honestly believe that the majority of bad moods we are in are legitimate category when in reality they are chosen.

We choose a mood because it serves a purpose.

Huh?  Yep, serves a purpose.  The purposes are as varied as people and moods.

For example, for some it validates that we are unhappy about something, or it reaffirms what a crappy person we are because of something we did or didn’t do, or it’s a way of punishing someone because we didn’t get our way.  You name your own poison.

Another way you can tell that it is a chosen mood is how quickly it changes.

Think about it.  Have you ever been in a crappy mood and crabbing around all prickly?  Then someone you like or admire (or want to impress) comes in the room you immediately change your mood.

At that moment you just chose another mood.

There is one more point I need to make.  It is important that you not confuse frustration with a mood.  For example, I am frustrated that I am late getting the blog posted.  I’m frustrated but not in a bad mood.

If I want to be honest, there have been times when a lot less has happened and I chose to be in a bad mood.

Well, I hope you’re in a good mood now.  If not… your choice.

See you Monday.

Ciao.


28
Apr 11

Stop or you’ll lose your hand

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G’day mate.

After 135 blog entries I got tired of the run of the mill greetings such as – howdy, hi there, and welcome back.  On two rare occasions I ventured into the international arena with a simple “hola” or “Ciao”.

For whatever reason today felt a bit more cheerful and inviting so a “G’day mate” just trickled down my fingers to the keyboard and on to the screen.

Maybe I’m cheerful because the sun is out.  This morning was crisp, brilliant and beautiful.  Even the birds seemed to happier and chirpier.

I don’t know where you live but in our part of the country we have been drowning in rain.  Our area may set a new record for the most amount of rain to fall in any month since keeping records.  Needless to say, there is no shortage of water here or people feeling down because of the seemingly continual overcast skies.

Isn’t it funny (odd may be the better word choice) how things such as weather affect our moods and impact our emotional state?

Moods seem weird to me for some reason.  If you have been reading my blog for any length of time you know that I get in a crappy mood every now and then.  I even wrote about my mood earlier this month.

Side Note: Humm… maybe I am moodier than I think?

Nah, self enlightenment is not on my agenda for today.  Maybe that’s an insight to explore another day.

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Generally I am in a pretty good mood.  I tend to be a pretty positive person overall.

But have you ever met someone who always seems to have a stick up their butt.  You know, the person you hesitate to address.  They are, what you might call, even tempered – Always in a bad mood.

Frankly I don’t understand it.  It can’t be very fun to be them.  It is definitely not fun to be around them.

You may be wondering about the picture of the Jack Russell Terrier at the top of the page.  The picture is actually related to this point.

If you don’t know about Jack Russell Terriers they are amazing dogs.  Don’t let that cute face and little body fool you.  They are a big dog in a little body.  They are smart, energetic, spirited and shall we say… can be a bit temperamental if not managed carefully.

My wife and I were in Scotland a few years ago and spent the night in a small rather obscure village called Inveraray in County Argyll.

After dinner we were walking through this quaint village and noticed an older gentleman taking his Jack Russell on their evening walk.

As we approached the delightful duo, my wife being a dog lover, asked the fellow if she could pet the dog.

The setting, the duo and his simple response is one of those memorable moments that you carry with you and reflect on with fondness.  One of those memories you think about and smile.

With a strong Scottish brogue, he nicely, but matter-of-factly, said,

“Oh no mam.  He doesn’t even like himself.”

So we kept our hands to ourselves and strolled on enjoying the evening and smiling.

I don’t know about you but I find it hard to walk away smiling from people who tend to snap at an outstretched hand.  But I can’t let their snappy bad mood rub off on me.

Now if I am completely honest (uggh, honesty) I need to make sure that when I am in a snappy bad mood that I don’t bite people’s hands.

It’s not a good thing to do… tasty at times but not good.

Side Note: Frankly I think that I just impressed myself.

Somehow I started this blog with an Australian G’day Mate and ended up in Scotland with a Jack Russell terrier.

Don’t ask me how but somehow I did.

See you Monday mate.

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3
Apr 11

Don’t Give Me any Crap

Howdy.  Good to see you.

I have a question for you.  Do you ever just feel… crappy?  There may be no specific reason for the mood, it’s just that you feel bad.

I am sure you have your times just like me.  Today I feel crappy.

I know you don’t want to read a blog about me feeling blah.  I sure wouldn’t want to read something that’s a downer.  Hopefully by the time you finish you will find it to be an encouragement.

The bigger question is what do you do when you’re feeling down.

Honestly I am like everyone else.  When I feel crappy I just huff and puff around the house and growl when someone gets too close.  Pleasant huh?

Surprisingly, there is another option.  Sounds simple, but its not always easy.

The other option is… choice.  Choosing to change our attitude.

There are times when I must grab the mood by the neck, push it against a wall and put it in its place.

I am not saying it is easy, but it’s absolutely doable.  It’s our choice.  I can choose to stay in a crappy mood and allow it suck the life out of me.

It is not much fun being around someone who is in a terrible mood.  When you think about it… how self centered.  If you’re going to stay in a bad mood just sequester yourself in isolation as not to ruin everyone else’s day.

By choosing to stay in a bad mood and continue to be around other people I become a carrier of crap infecting all that I come in contact with.

I in no way pretend to have a handle on this gift… choice.  But there is someone who has amazing insight and experience with this very thing.

Someone who knows about choosing ones attitude is Viktor Frankl.

Viktor Frankl

He was a prisoner at a concentration camp during WWII.  He later became a Psychiatrist and wrote a book Man’s Search for Meaning.

“Everything can be taken from a man or a woman but one thing: the last of human freedoms to choose one’s attitude in any given set of circumstances, to choose one’s own way.”

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In his book he said that being in camp always required a decision.  Everyday there it was a decision to choose your attitude or “…become a plaything to the influences in camp.”

He talked about those who would rise above the surroundings and give their last bit of food or encourage.  People daily made choice of a noble nature, and others chose a lower path.

“When we are no longer able to change a situation – we are challenged to change ourselves.”

- Viktor Frankl

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How convicting!  Yes we all have struggles and challenges in our lives.  I am not making light of the things you or I face.  They’re real and they’re difficult.

But there is proof that there is a better way.

I don’t know about you but I want to choose.  I choose to force through the funk and write this blog.  You know what?  I feel lot’s better.  In fact, I feel really good.

I can’t figure out why so many times I settle for less when more is available.

Feeling crappy?  Make a choice and then look around for a task needing done… and do it.

See you Thursday.


11
Oct 10

Moody Blues

Hi, welcome.  But before you get too far along in the blog I need to give you a heads up.

Fair warning… I’m in a crappy mood today… really crappy.

Don’t ask me why.  I just am.

It’s one of those days that almost everything irritates me… traffic, noise, work, smiley people, and kittens.  Pretty bad huh?

You ever get that way?  This doesn’t happen to me very often.  Usually I am in a fairly good mood and all is well… except today.

Side Note: I think I will blame it on the anesthesia from my surgery almost two weeks ago.  It’s probably not the anesthesia but it sounds good and it’s hard to argue with a fellow fresh from surgery.

A weird thought just crossed my mind.  I wonder if Jesus was ever in a bad mood.  He was human after all.  Yes, he was sinless but it doesn’t mean he didn’t have a bad day.  Having a bad day isn’t a sin.

Think about it.  It would be tough hanging out day in and day out with smelly fishermen and not get irritable.

You think I am writing this to get a cheap chuckle (of which I have been known to do).  Actually I am pretty serious about this.  Was Jesus ever in a bad mood?

Frankly, if he did have bad mood day it would not impact my view or perspective of him one iota.

Side Note: It’s weird how writing goes.  Going down this topic path was not even a thought when I started typing.  It just popped into my brain.  I know… scary.

I think it is hard for us to see Jesus as a human.  Yes He is God but human too.  He was a baby who nursed, spit up and pooped.  I personally believe that he probably argued with his brothers and sisters and had the normal raging hormones as a teen.  So why not a bad mood?

Have you ever done anything dumb and called yourself a stupid idiot?  Do you think Jesus ever made a mistake (not sin)?  If Jesus did make a mistake and called himself a stupid idiot would he be blaspheming?

Speaking of Jesus when He was younger, personally I think it would have been tough being the brother or sister of Jesus.  I mean… how would you respond if your mother asked (in some moment of exasperation like all mothers) you why can’t you be like your older brother?

On a serious note, I had never really thought of it before but I do think it had to be odd and a challenge growing up the half brother of Jesus.  No question it was odd for the entire family.

Does it make you feel uncomfortable reading this description of Jesus?  It wouldn’t surprise me because it feels a little odd and uncomfortable writing about Him this way.

Typically when I think of Jesus I tend to think of him in light of his ministry.  But He was a baby, toddler, child, teen, young adult.  I feel odd because I’m not used to seeing him in these forms.

I really don’t believe He minds us speculating about his early life.  He’s probably smiling.

Ok, ok, enough of the weird blather.

Question:  How do you handle your crappy moods?  Any suggestions?

I am sure I will be fine tomorrow.  I feel better all ready having made a complete fool of myself with this strange blog.  But any thoughts or suggestions would be nice.

See you Thursday.