Posts Tagged: purpose

Jun 12

Polished Rocks… rocks

IMOPORTANT NOTE:  I’m bummed.  I am on vacation and I’m at a computer that won’t let me download pictures. 

The computer Nazi won’t let me download… so… NO PICTURES FOR YOU!

Yep… back again.

I am continuing the topic of what makes our lives happy and fulfilled.  The last couple of blog entries have been on the topic of “purpose”.

I personally believe that one cannot have a happy and fulfilled life without purpose – it’s an absolute from my standpoint.

The other things I will be talking about in regards to what makes a person happy and fulfilled are very important but somehow in my mind do not meet the threshold of absoluteness as does purpose.

The second thing that popped into my head after purpose was people.


Whether we admit it or not we were not made to be alone.  We are made for community – to be around people to share our life. 

I know that everyone of you have been somewhere doing something fun or had a special experience and thought that it would be great to have someone to share it with.

Life experiences are fuller when shared.

Now let’s be real… people can be a pain in the ass.  People make life more complicated at times. 

But what you experience in frustration is multiplied in joy because friends and people make us fuller and better.

If it weren’t for people we would see no need to change.  The different needs, wants, desires, and goals of the friends we are around and ourselves rub against each other. 

It does cause friction.  But the friction polishes us and makes our life much more amazing.

If you didn’t know it that is the way they polish rocks.  Rocks are thrown in a rolling tub and the rocks grinding against one another rubs off the residue that keeps them from shining.

I value the friend who for me finds time on his calendar, but I cherish the friend who for me does not consult his calendar.
- Robert Brault

I know that there are people who prided themselves on being a recluse.  I am not saying that people can’t survive without someone else in their life. 

I am not saying that you have to have a whole tub full of friends.  But you need someone to rub against you to get the most out of life.

Most people are familiar with John Donne’s famous poetic verse.

No man is an island, entire of itself; every man is a piece of the continent.
- John Donne

The longer I live the more I believe this to be true.  When you are younger the world is yours for the taking.  You want life and people to revolve around you.

If you remain the center of your world you will have a very very small life.   Seriously. 

I don’t know about you but I want to experience life to the fullest that God intended. 

Wow… how small a world my life would be if were just me.

See you on Thursday.

NOTE:  The blog looks bland without the pictures huh?  Oh well, the pressure is on to say something that makes us think.


Jun 12

Where angels fear to trod!


Howdy… good to have you visit.

Well, as you know I have been have stepped into the middle of a topic where “angels fear to trod”.

I have been talking about the purpose for and in our lives.  This whole series of blogs was launched when I posed the question, what makes a person fulfilled and happy?

In the last blog I talked about the importance of purpose and promised that I would talk about gives my life purpose.

To talk about purpose in my life requires that I talk a little about my Faith.

Don’t worry… I’m not going to get all preachy or write with churchy God talk.

Side Note: Those of you who have hung out with me for a while knows that I talk very little about God.  That is not the purpose of this blog.


But my faith is the essence of who I am so if I am talking about purpose in my life then it must be part of the discussion.

I have found that people who are intellectually honest want to hear people’s story.

If you were sharing the purpose of your life I would be interested in your story regardless if our beliefs matched or not.

I would want to hear your story but I don’t want or need you jamming what you believe down my throat.  You can be assured I will never do that to you.

You may find this interesting but I get my example of not forcing you to believe the way I do from Jesus… yep Jesus.

He never ever forced anyone to believe him.  He spoke clearly and directly about who He was but never forced people to believe or accept.

That’s why free will is so incredibly important as it relates to the Christian faith.

If there were no free will then God would not be who he said he is.  If God is love then he must love us enough to give us the choice to love him back.

God does pursue us… because he loves us.  But He never forces us.

Unfortunately many Christians (albeit genuine) have tried to force their beliefs on the nearest breathing target.  How sad and unfortunate.

God gets the black eye for the stupidity of people who do things in the name of Jesus.

I ran across this picture that unfortunately makes my point.



My purpose isn’t to make atheists wrong.  Wow, what a pitiful life if that’s your purpose.

My purpose is simply living a life for Christ.  Why?

Because He is real; because He is who he said he was; because He’s relevant to every aspect of my life; and because He is worthy of my love and life.

I mentioned in the last blog that purpose was important because we needed something bigger than ourselves.

Living a life of faith based on a relationship with Christ is wonderful in that it makes my life bigger, more meaningful, and utterly amazing.

He gives my life purpose.

Once again, I am not trying to make you believe the way I believe.  But my story of purpose is that of knowing and following Christ.

You may be reading this blog for the same reason I read blogs or books… I want to learn, stretch my thinking and explore the world of thought and ideas.

If there is a God (which I personally have no question there is), and if a person is genuinely seeking and pursuing truth, then naturally they will open hearts and minds to things they don’t understand.

For whatever reason our paths have crossed via this blog.  I do not believe it to be an accident.

Hopefully I have stirred your thinking.  If so… terrific.

On Monday I am going to talk about the second thing that makes our lives fulfilled and happy.

See you then.

Jun 12

Easier Question Please!


Yep… me again.

I am kind of hesitant to jump into the topic of today’s blog.  I may have bitten off a little more than I can chew.

Believe it or not I am going poke around at a topic that person, in every country, in every culture have wrestled with at some point in time in their life.


This word conjures up all types of questions.  What is the purpose of my life?  What is our purpose?  Why are we here?  Is there a purpose I build my life around?

This may sound very simplistic (because it is) but having purpose is important.

Everyone longs for a “Why”.

I am not even addressing yet what your or my purpose is.  I just recognize that there is something that pierces the soul in regards to purpose.

Even in the simplest of things purpose is demanded.  How many times have you, or heard your children, ask why to something.  We naturally have a “why”  to most things in life.

So I did what everyone does when they have a looming question in life… I Googled it.

There was a web page I ended up on where a person was struggling to find their purpose in life.  In this public forum they innocently and genuinely wrote the following:

“i feel like i don’t have a purpose here on this earth, i know i do i can feel it, i couldn’t have just been put here for no reason…. i need something to believe in something to make my life worth living, because that feeling you have when you are passionate about something is so great i need it i crave it… what should i do?”

As you can imagine there were some interesting responses regarding the purpose of life.

  • Beer
  • Fun
  • Join our club, we have jackets

Then there was the person that said we don’t need a purpose.

You don’t need one. This is because there is no purpose for humans on this world. My personal belief is, though, that although there is no purpose for humankind in general, the main goal of humans as individuals is to obtain happiness.

Humm… they must have read the quote from the Dalai Lama.  (If you have no idea what my last sentence meant I encourage you to scroll down the page to my last blog entry.)

There were lots of comments of a spiritual nature.  Lots of Christians and Muslims responded talking about their Faith.

Most were very nice and inviting but some were pretty forceful.  My guess is some were not too helpful.

So, let me go back to a statement I made earlier… purpose is important.

But why?

Here’s why… I believe that in our basic emotional DNA there is this God given sense that there is something or someone bigger than us.

Think about it.  It’s kind of scary to think that we as human beings are the pinnacle of life as we know it.

If life or this world is no larger than we are… how sad.

Purpose is only meaningful because it takes us beyond our selves to something bigger.

On Thursday I will talk about what gives my life purpose and contributes to the question that started this flurry of blogs – How does one have a happy and fulfilled life?

Yes, Purpose is definitely a major piece of that question.


May 12

Watch out for the cliff


Me again.  Welcome back.

In the last blog I talked about having a life that is happy and fulfilled.  Toward the end of the blog I asked this question…

What really does constitute happiness and fulfillment, and how does one attain it?

It was then that I threw out the possibility that I may spend some time talking about this lofty topic.

I am probably stepping off the edge of a cliff but I think I will step out on the topic and see where we land or what we hit.  Hopefully it will prove valuable.

Believe me when I say that I have no illusions that I can bring any new insight to a topic that has been the central question of everyone’s existence.  Not at all.

The reality is, I will have no new insight… but don’t stop reading.

Just because I will have nothing new to add to this looming question of life doesn’t mean you won’t get anything out of this blog.

Here’s why.  It’s not because I am gifted… it is because you may be ready to hear and receive.

I may by chance have the privilege to lay an important stepping-stone of insight or stimulus on your journey to happiness and fulfillment.

Or, something I say may not extend your path but it stirs a thought that helps remove an obstacle in your path, something that has hindered progress.

Once again it is not that I am particularly insightful or bright… it is because you are ready to take it in.

Just so you know, my attempt to talk about this topic of happiness and fulfillment will not be a linear line of logic.

I will throw out things as I think of them and build on them accordingly.

So grab my hand and let’s step off this cliff together.  Look out beloooooooooooooow.


What constitutes happiness and fulfillment and how does one attain it?

The first thing that pops into my mind regarding happiness and fulfillment is – PURPOSE.

I ran across two quotes about purpose and happiness that I found pretty interesting.  I would like for you to choose which one you think is most true.


The purpose of our lives is to be happy.
– Dalai Lama



True happiness… is not attained through self-gratification, but through fidelity to a worthy purpose.
– Helen Keller

So which is it?  Is the purpose of our lives to be happy or does happiness come from purpose?

Nothing against the Dalai Lama but I think he has this one wrong.

Happiness is a “what” while purpose is one of the “whys”.

So if you believe, as I do, that Helen Keller is more on target then this begs the next question, what is the purpose I build my life around?

Humm… good question.  We’ll tackle that on Monday.

See you then.


Jun 10

What’s the Purpose

Hi, welcome back.

I heard something the other day that really started me thinking.  It struck me at the time so I wrote it down and tucked it in my wallet.

“If you don’t know the purpose of something you will abuse it.”

The interesting thing is that over the past few weeks it was something that kept creeping into my consciousness.  If there is something that is persistent enough to demand my attention then I need to pay attention.

This is one of those times that I was meant to stop and try to find meaning beyond the obvious.

“If you don’t know the purpose of something you will abuse it.”

This may sound goofy but the first thing that struck me is that this statement defined for me the purpose of “purpose”.

Purpose elevates the ordinary and provides it with meaning.  And true meaning comes from… fulfilling your purpose.  Think about it, what is the meaning of anything if it doesn’t have a purpose.

Knowing the significance of purpose is different than knowing the purpose.  This awareness demands one to understand and know purpose.

Side Note: I didn’t intend to get philosophical.  But the way things are beginning to flow out of my head I might get “out there” a bit.  I may cross the “weirdo” line that causes you cock your head and say “Huh?”  Fair Warning!

The second insight that jumped out to me is that I must fully understand the importance of the purpose of something.  We treat something in direct value we place on it.

If nothing means anything to you, then it is easy to abuse or neglect.

Quote Addendum:  “If you don’t know the purpose of something you will abuse or neglect it.”

You can destroy by abuse or neglect.  In fact I believe the greater sin is neglect.

Abuse comes from anger and anger means that something important somewhere was violated.  Anger (although usually misplaced) is a reaction to something meaningful.

Ignoring something means that it possesses so little value that it demands no emotional investment.

The third thing that wiggled its way to my consciousness is this.  If purpose is so important then we are to assist things and people in fulfilling their purpose.

“How strange is the lot of us mortals! Each of us is here for a brief sojourn; for what purpose he knows not, though he senses it. But without deeper reflection one knows from daily life that one exists for other people.”

- Albert Einstein

Humm, does it mean that part of our purpose is to help people find their purpose?

All of this caused me question things a bit more.  For example, it caused me to ask, “What is my real purpose for writing this blog?”  It’s a question that I must ask periodically.  I think the purpose is to stretch me and cause me to grow as a person.

Maybe, maybe not.  But I do know that questions regarding purpose are important to ask.

As a capstone to this blog I ran across this quote from Robert Byrne.

“The purpose of life is a life of purpose.”

See you Thursday.