Posts Tagged: struggle

Jul 12

The Tough Fights


Yep, I’m back.  I bet some of you were worried that I had been taken out by some of the people I may have pissed off in the last blog.

For those of you who didn’t read the last blog I talked about people who struggled with negative thinking.

This was not a shot at people who tended to have a different tint on life than me.  I was just opining about how I didn’t understand.

The reality is, it is very easy for anyone (especially me) to blather about and have opinions on things that they don’t struggle with.
But we all struggle with something.  It can be anything… negativity, insensitivity, arrogance, denial, low self-esteem, doubt, passivity, aggressiveness… choose your own poison.

The point is that it’s very easy for someone for whom a particular thing isn’t a struggle to be very casual and flippant about the other person’s struggles.

Just so you know, I wasn’t being flippant about negativity.  I just don’t understand it.

There are things about me and things that I struggle with that other people can’t understand and be tempted to say… get over it.
Most of you who have read my blog for any length of time know that I have struggled with worrying too much about what people think.

It is one of many reasons why I started this blog.  I put myself out to the world, say my piece and not worry about what people think.

This whole “worrying what people think” has hindered me and has been a pain in the ass.

I do pretty well now but it still rears its ugly head.  I don’t choose to feel this way any more than a person chooses to be negative.
It’s very easy for the person who could care less what other people think say… just stop feeling being that way, don’t worry what people think.

Oh sure, easy for you to say.  Because it’s easy for them doesn’t mean it’s easy for me.

I ran across this video a few years ago that is terrific.  A favorite.

First, there is a lot of truth to it but it also shows how easy it is to just tell someone to just stop doing the thing that hinders them.
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STOP it!

That’s easy for me to say about people who tend to think negatively.

Whatever the issue is that hinders us we must face it, work on it and eventually wrestle that gorilla to the ground.

Take it from me, just because you wrestled that gorilla to the ground doesn’t mean it won’t fight back to get free.  You have to keep your foot on its neck.

So, to all those reading this today I hope you aren’t feeling negative about my blog.  And if you are I will try not to worry about what you think.

See you Monday.

Dec 11

Head to Heart


Hello again.  I am glad you decided to hang out with me.

In the last couple of blogs I have been talking about a recent Spiritual insight.  It is regarding the love of God and how he sees his children.  If you haven’t read them I encourage you to take a quick look.

In the last entry I talked about God seeing us as perfect even though we are imperfect. 

On some level I have believed this in my head but couldn’t quite get it to my heart.  Conceptually I knew that God sees us as perfect because of Christ but still struggled at times because I could still see all of my imperfections. 


The reality of God seeing us as perfect expanded significantly, and dramatically moved closer to my heart after the encounter with the mother and five year old daughter that I wrote about two entries back.

I have always heard that the longest journey is from the head to the heart.  This is not only true in spiritual matters but in all facets of life.


There is a wisdom of the head, and a wisdom of the heart.
-  Charles Dickens

.Our heads are continually being bombarded with thoughts, ideas, information and data. 

We can learn, theorize and speculate about all sorts of stuff.  The more information we have the greater the likelihood of being deceived that one is an expert or truly knowledgeable about something in particular.

Side Note:  I will use a lot of societal or earthly examples to try to impart a spiritual truth.  They of course will all fall short.  But the core concept is sound.


Take something as innocuous as the sport of golf.  I can read books, watch videos, try to channel Tiger, even play a few rounds.  I have the head knowledge but it isn’t realized in actuality.

Most who golf –are not golfers; most who paint – are not artists; most who build – are not craftsmen; most who cook – are not chefs.

The journey from the head to the heart is a journey of dedication, commitment, trial and error, openness and vulnerability.  

It is a journey of struggle and transformation.

I believe that information and theory never gently flows from the head to the inner being, nor can it be imposed.  It is rewarded.


“We must work out what God has put in.”

- Oswald Chambers


I have referred to the following illustration before but it fits so well with this topic.

The transformation from a caterpillar to a butterfly is a journey of struggle. 

The slow, low caterpillar grinds his way through life and eventually builds and entraps himself in a cocoon.    

When the right time has come, he begins to push the confines of the walls he built. 

The struggle begins.  There can be no stopping, and most importantly, he can receive no help. 

You see, it is the struggle that forces the fluids and strength to the extremities that enables the butterfly to fly.  

We have all had those moments in life, relationships, with hobbies where we finally say, “I get it, I get it!”

The concepts and information are internalized and become real.  One knows that they haven’t mastered it, but also knows that they are experiencing it on a totally different level.

But there is another element to this spiritual insight.

One believes it – but do they receive it?

See you Thursday.

Jun 11

Foot on the Neck


Yep… Monday again.

Mondays seem to come around more often and more quickly these days.

I turn around or look up and all of a sudden it’s Monday.  Most of the time Mondays seem to catch me flat footed and I feel the brunt of its force more so than the other days of the week.

So this morning I am picking myself up off my ass after catching Monday’s blow.  I know some of you are bothered because I used the word ass instead of rear end or bum.

It’s not a word I throw around too often, but ass is so much more descriptive.

Saying Monday knocked me on my bum sounds so gentle and… and… civilized, as if Monday would apologize for the inconvenience.

Monday: “Oh excuse me mate, I didn’t mean to bump into you this week.  I am so sorry.  Please allow me help you up and dust you off.”

But no, this Monday “sucker punched” me, laughed as I went down, and held it’s heel on my neck.  I stayed there a while this morning until I wiggled around and freed myself from under its grimy foot.

So here I am writing away and taking care of the weekly duties and slowly building up momentum to get the week rolling.

I don’t think that I am too different than most of you.  This journey of life we are all on has those times that stimulate and motivate and then times that seem to drain us.

It is my experience that there may be times when there is a definitive reason for a draining day but generally it is a mish mash of stuff that seems to have no rhyme or reason.  It’s just the nature of life.

I found a quote that fits well with the topic.

“Challenges are what make life interesting; overcoming them is what makes life meaningful.”

.-  Joshua J. Marine


Imagine a life where there were no difficulties.  Would that be a good thing?

“Struggle” has two amazing positives to consider.

First, it forces us to move beyond where we are, step out, take action.   Unfortunately discomfort of the present tends to be a greater motivator than opportunities of the future.

Secondly, the struggle makes us stronger.  The resistances of life solidify those things that are important.  It also strengthens the internal fiber to stand and pursue the hard path to good things instead of yielding to the easier roads in life.

Although I am a bit bruised from the morning struggle, I am feeling pretty good about this Monday after all.

I guess it is time for me to take my foot off Monday’s neck and let it go about its business.  Watch out… Monday has a few more people on its list to “sucker punch” today.

Hope to see you Thursday.